MesoLoft Can Ease Grief Work
Here, in a nutshell, is the opinion I'd like to share: the ash scattering service provided by MesoLoft does much more than merely scattering the remains; it effectively change a person's on-going relationship with their deceased loved one. To say it another way; in taking their cremated remains to the edge of space and scattering them (to be carried around the globe by the ever-shifting winds), MesoLoft helps to positively redefine the enduring connection between the bereaved and the deceased.
There's something else you should know: the essential emotional quality of this connection greatly affects the outcome of grieving. Let me explain. If the emotional tie between living survivor and the deceased is weak or negatively-charged (with resentment or anger, for example), the long-term well-being of the grieving family member can be compromised. But when the connection is strong, nurturing and positively-charged; the grieving person is empowered to work through the four tasks of mourning and ultimately better adjust to a new way of living.
What are the "Four Tasks of Mourning"?
Basically, these four things are the core elements of healthy bereavement. Identified by Dr. James Worden, a leader in the study of grief and bereavement, the tasks are:
To accept the reality of the loss
To process the pain of grief
To adjust to a world without the deceased
To find an enduring connection with the deceased in the midst of embarking on a new life
We're really focusing our attention on the last two tasks; the two which focus on developing a healthy adjustment and connection. And to me, the service provided by MesoLoft changes the nature of both their adjustment to a new reality, as well as shaping (or reshaping) the nature of the enduring connection the living have to the deceased.
No longer is the deceased nowhere (although perhaps stored in an urn on the fireplace mantel or on a shelf in the closet). Once scattered at such great heights, they are now everywhere. Their mortal remains have become part of the greater whole, nurturing life on this planet in unforeseeable ways and serve to deepen the enduring emotional or spiritual connection their bereaved family and friends have to this continuing, all-pervasive presence.
Kim Stacey is an anthropologist, licensed funeral director and certified grief counselor. She not only brings a unique global perspective to any conversation about life celebration and commemoration; her work as a grief counselor has given her the insights into the complexities of human reactions to loss. She can be reached for comment at kimstacey@sbcglobal.net
